Did you ever stop to think as to what drives you to lose weight? After a lot of reflecting and being on a rollercoaster ride with my weight loss efforts of the last five years, and every time I abandon it and restart it, I began to realize, I’ve just being doing it for superficial reasons. I thought I was doing it for myself or to be fit but the underlying reasons were just to look good for a specific event or catching the eye of that special person or just to please or compete with others. The real reason of my goal wasn’t about being healthy at all. So is it good to have a these goals or is it preferable to set a longer term vision or should I wait for some medical reason so drastic that I have to lose weight.
A friend of mine was diagnosed with cancer and that was her reason to lose weight, her purpose was so strong that she ended up being fitness professional and is an inspiration to others. She told me that she spends a lot of time with her clients to find out the real reason they want to lose weight. Even though it does take a long time to find the reason why, it’s worth the wait because underneath that is the motivation to reach their goals.
If the reason is superficial but it still lines up with your good values, it does not necessarily cause such a challenge as long it can keep you motivated over the long term. Some people are motivated by a mixture of health and aesthetics. There’s nothing wrong with having aesthetics as a reason for losing weight, in the end who doesn’t want to feel and look good. After all being healthy can help you to live longer and you can see your children grow up, get married and have their own kids.
For a lot of people, their desire to have babies can be a big motivator to lose weight. Their weight could be an hindrance and could lead to a host of difficulties such as infertility, problematic pregnancies and other type of health complication for the baby.
Another friend of mine just wanted to lose weight so that she could prove to herself that she could do it, it was like she was challenging herself to build her own confidence. Some people tend to experience emotions like guilt or shame about their bodies or how’s it is perceived by others. This can also lead to low self-confidence or low self-esteem. This can affect their relationships or their careers, so in order to reverse this effect they lose weight which in turn builds their confidence and they feel they are more in control of themselves.
So whatever the reason might be, the first step to losing weight is to find the “why” do you want to lose it in the first place. The days you are not motivated and when you want to give up it’s your reason why that will keep you going.